From Father Steven - December 29, 2024

Father Steven Clemence • December 26, 2024

 

Dear Brothers and Sisters,

 

Can you imagine being raised by St. Joseph and the Virgin Mary? What do you think it was like to be part of Jesus’ family? This weekend, as we celebrate the Feast of the Holy Family, let us reflect on some of the struggles faced by Jesus, Mary, and Joseph. Their lives were not without hardship.


There is a common misconception that there should be no problems in our families. From A to Z, we can think of a number of issues that we face at different moments in our lives. However, we often feel as though we are the only ones facing these challenges. When we look at the Holy Family of Nazareth, we can see that they, too, experienced difficulties.

 

First, imagine the discomfort of Mary as she traveled from Nazareth to Bethlehem. In those days, they did not have cars, buses, or even carriages. It is believed that Mary rode a donkey for over 100 miles through rough terrain while on the verge of giving birth. Then imagine arriving at a place that you don’t know and had nowhere to stay? This is to say that they had it very difficult from day one. Then right after the birth of Christ they had to flee to Egypt to a place that they did not even speak the language. 

 

Second, although Jesus was obedient to Mary and Joseph, he did do things that they did not understand. Surely it is not the same to our children, but there are decisions that they take that make us suffer. Imagine the suffering of Mary having lost Jesus for 3 days! But in all that moment she never despaired or lost her bearings. We don’t always behave like that in similar situations. Then we don’t know many details, but we know that Joseph dies at some point. It is never easy to face the death of a loved one. We know for a fact that Jesus cried at the death of Lazarus. 

 

Finally, Mary also endured the suffering and death of her own son. At the foot of the Cross, she witnessed the agony and death of Jesus. As the prophet Simeon foretold, "a sword will pierce through your own soul also" (Luke 2:35). This was the sorrow of sorrows, yet Mary never lost her faith. The Holy Family of Nazareth faced many adversities, but they always trusted God in those moments. Their struggles helped them grow in faith and to lean not on their own strength, but on God's providence.

 

The perfect life can only be found in Heaven. Here on earth, we mourn and weep in the valley of tears as we pray in the Hail, Holy Queen. It is normal to face adversities in our families. Surely it is difficult, but not impossible. Whether it is illnesses, vices, faults, or problems with the children, love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. Then there is our hope. When at your wedding you promised each other to be faithful in good times and bad, in sickness and health, to love and honor our spouse all the days of your lives. Let us not forget our promises, because God will help us to fulfill them. Finally, remember that no matter how big our issues may seem, our God is bigger than all of them.

 

In addition to blessings, God has given us His own Mother to help us in our lives. As we approach New Year’s Eve, we not only give thanks to God for the countless blessings we received in 2024, but we are also called to honor the Virgin Mary under the title "Mother of God." This feast is so important that the Church has made January 1st a Holy Day of Obligation. We will have Masses on December 31st at 4:00 PM and in Portuguese at 8:00 PM. Then, on January 1st, we will have Masses at 7:30 AM & 11:00 AM, and in Spanish at 1:00 PM. Let us all start 2025 with God and honor our Blessed Mother.

 

God Bless you and Happy New Year!

Fr. Steven

 

From Father Steven - November 16, 2025

By Father Steven Clemence • November 14, 2025
Dear Brothers & Sisters, As we continue honoring the faithful departed during the month of November, I would like to speak about something that can sometimes feel uncomfortable or awkward—but is also very necessary: funerals. This week, I read an article in the National Catholic Register titled “Why Are Fewer Catholics Having Church Funerals?” It noted that over the past 20 years, the number of Catholic funerals in the United States has dropped by about 30%. The article went on to explain that many families now prefer holding funeral services at funeral homes rather than having a funeral Mass in church. One of the main reasons for this shift, according to the study cited, is that families of the deceased are often no longer religious. They may feel uncomfortable going to church, or they may not see the need for it. At times, the person who passed away was a faithful parishioner who attended Mass regularly. Yet when the moment of loss comes—with the grief, family tensions, and emotional exhaustion that follow—families often choose a simpler service rather than a funeral Mass. It is important, however, to understand the deep value of offering a Mass for someone who has died. From a psychological standpoint, it provides closure as we entrust the soul of our loved one to God. There is a beautiful prayer of commendation at the end of the funeral Mass, in which the priest commends the soul of the deceased into the hands of the Father. On a spiritual level, the value is even greater. The sacrifice of Christ made present on the altar has immeasurable power. To offer a Mass for the soul of a loved one has a profound effect—especially after death. In every Mass, Christ offers Himself for the salvation of souls. While a Mass cannot change the free choice of someone who rejected God, it can assist souls in purgatory on their journey to heaven. For that reason, it is vital that we not only pray for our departed loved ones but also have a Mass offered for them. Additionally, the graces of a funeral Mass extend to all who attend—especially to the family and friends who gather in faith and hope. A funeral Mass does not need to be complicated. In fact, simplicity often brings greater peace and focus. It is even recommended that each person plan his or her own funeral Mass in advance—choosing the readings and hymns, and letting loved ones know their wishes. This both expresses the person’s faith and eases the burden on the family, especially if they are no longer active in the Church. Our parish office can help you choose readings and music and answer any questions you may have. I would also like to mention that, technically, the words of remembrance is not part of the funeral liturgy. While the Archdiocese allows something brief at Mass, it is not preferable. The Mass is primarily an act of prayer and intercession for the soul of the deceased, rather than a time for praise or personal remembrance. Lastly, a quick word about cremation. Until relatively recently, the Church discouraged cremation because it could obscure the sign of our belief in the resurrection of the body. Although cremation is now permitted, the Church still requires that the cremated remains be properly buried. The same article I mentioned earlier noted the growing practice of scattering ashes or keeping them at home. While these gestures may come from love or sentiment, our faith teaches that the remains of the deceased should rest in consecrated ground—together with others who “sleep in Christ,” awaiting the resurrection. The word cemetery itself comes from the Greek koimeterion , meaning “dormitory”—a place of sleep, not of death. If you have the ashes of a loved one at home, please contact us; we will gladly assist you in arranging a proper burial. Here in our town, we are blessed to have three excellent funeral homes with compassionate and capable staff who can help you with any questions and guide you through the process. I hope this reflection helps you better understand the beauty and meaning of the funeral Mass—a sacred act of love, faith, and hope in the resurrection. God Bless, Fr. Steven

From Father Steven - November 9, 2025

By Father Steven Clemence • November 7, 2025
Dear Brothers & Sisters, This week, I would like to talk about a sensitive topic: food insecurity and the stigma that comes along with it. We were raised saying that we should be self-sufficient and independent, but at times God has other plans. Most parents wish that their children may have a good education, health, and a successful life. However, how do we measure success? Is it by the size of the house, the bank account or the 401K, or other accomplishments in life? None of the above! God measures us by humility, faithfulness to the sacrament, love! God’s only desire for us is salvation of our souls, that is, our holiness. It is important to set the parameters before we continue. It is not the first time that our country faces a difficult economic situation. I still remember the crisis of 2008. So many people were unemployed. Many families were unable to pay rent or mortgage, losing their houses. Many also did not have enough money to buy food. However, this reality is not part of a crisis, this is an ongoing issue that affects many families here and around the globe. Regardless of the reason for the financial instability, the point is that we always have had families that struggle to get to the end of the month. These families are not just those from Boston, downtown Worcester, or from another unprivileged condition. At times, they are people sitting next to us at mass, the parents of our children’s friends, or even someone who works, but does not get enough to sustain their families. It does not matter the reason for their struggle, what matters is that, this gives us an opportunity to help Jesus. You may remember the passage in which Jesus says that every time we clothe the naked we clothe him, and every time we feed a hungry person, we feed him. We do not know how much longer the government shut down will continue. We know that currently it is affecting families who are enrolled in food assistance programs. However, even if this gets resolved, we know that the struggle will continue. Therefore, what can we do? I will list a few ways in which we have to support one another. St. Vincent De Paul is a group from the Parish that assists people in various needs. They have boxes located in the exits of the church. By placing money in the poor boxes, we assist them in helping those in need. Here in town, we have the food pantry that also feeds many families. Although we can donate food to them, I was told that, if we were to donate money, they will be able to get even more food. I was told that the city, through the Mayor’s office, he is also able to provide some support. Here at the Parish we also have the community fridge located on the main street side of the church. There we can donate food. I’ve seen people who have cooked a meal and put it in several containers so that it’s easier for more people to have access to it. These are just a few ways to help those in need. You also can put money in an envelope and give it to the Parish office. We in turn will see who would be in the greatest need and give it to them. Jesus in the gospel teaches that when we give, we do not blow the trumpet. Instead, when we give we do it in secret, without letting the left hand know what the right hand is doing. God, who sees what we do in secret will reward us. Furthermore, we always give without counting the cost. Hasn’t God being generous to us? Let us then imitate our heavenly father. “Love one another as I have loved you.” This weekend we would like to thank all the men and women who serve our country: those who are serving and those who have served. Please keep them and their loved ones in your prayers as we commemorate Veteran’s Day. God Bless, Fr. Steven