From Father Steven - August 25, 2024

Father Steven Clemence • August 23, 2024

Dear Brothers and Sisters, 

 

We still live in a society filled with stigmas. While awareness and acceptance of many issues have grown tremendously, there are still topics people find difficult to discuss. One such issue is coping with suffering. Unfortunately, addiction remains a common but unhealthy way to deal with pain. Whether the addiction is public or private, it doesn't solve the underlying problems. Some addictions, like alcohol abuse, can be very harmful to ourselves and those around us, while others, like drug addiction, pose a significant danger. This week, we will observe International Overdose Awareness Day.

 

The challenge of dealing with suffering has been a topic of discussion since ancient times, with many philosophers offering their insights. Even though there may be clear answers, it remains difficult to navigate through suffering. In my ten years as a priest, dedicated to a life of prayer and study, I can attest that it is still very challenging to endure tribulations, whether personal or not. Now, imagine how much more difficult it must be for someone who doesn't have a balanced life, a supportive family, or struggles with their faith. The common response to pain is often to flee from it or to distract ourselves and pretend it isn't happening. Unfortunately, this only worsens the problem, making life seem unbearable. Faced with what feels like a dead end, some may turn to temporary relief, seeking comfort in pleasure or, more dangerously, in substances like alcohol or drugs. This leads to substance abuse and further deterioration, creating a vicious cycle that feels impossible to escape.

 

Jesus Christ gave us a core mandate in Christianity: to love God and our neighbor (Mt 22:37-40). He further explained that we should love one another as He has loved us. Reflecting on how Christ loved us, especially when we were troubled or went astray, we see His example as the Good Shepherd in Luke 15 and John 10. He lays down His life for His sheep, goes out to find the lost one, and rejoices when it is found. He doesn't shun the lost sheep or give it a lecture. Similarly, we are called to approach those who are lost with tenderness and love. In the parable of the Good Samaritan, Jesus shows us how to love our neighbor by displaying compassion to a stranger, someone who might even be considered despicable.

 

There are countless people in need of our help—those who are poor, homeless, struggling with addiction, lonely, or depressed. While we may not be able to help the entire world, we can make a difference one person at a time. Desmond Doss, whose story was portrayed in the movie "Hacksaw Ridge," believed in this principle. He enlisted in the war to help others, and by saving one person at a time, he rescued 75 soldiers from the battlefield and provided comfort to many more. This week, we have a great opportunity to help those struggling with opioid addiction and to support those mourning the loss of loved ones to overdose. The annual Candlelight Vigil for International Overdose Awareness Day will be Tuesday, August 27th at 6:45pm and will take place at the Frank D. Walker Building, 255 Main Street, Marlborough (if it’s raining, it will be held in the Upper Church). The evening will feature a Memorial Slideshow, Guest Speakers, Free Narcan, and a Candle Lighting Ceremony. Please join us in welcoming everyone who attends, praying with and for them, and taking the first step in helping those in need.

 

 

God Bless,

Fr. Steven

 

From Father Steven - February 8, 2026

By Father Steven Clemence • February 6, 2026
Dear Brothers and Sisters, Please see the letter below from David and Stephanie Ringland, our parishioners, about the upcoming Couples Retreat February 21st. This will be a wonderful day for our couples!! This retreat is for couples of all ages and stages committed to growing deeper in love, in faith and in God’s Calling. The day will include meaningful conversations, guided workshops, stories and lunch. This is designed to strengthen connection and renew commitment. We are looking forward to seeing you! God Bless, Fr. Steven ———————————————- Greetings Fellow Parishioners! Are you distracted? There are so many things in the world today that compete for your time and attention, whether it's the late-night work deadlines, the news feed on your cell phone, the ads on the radio, who or what was posted on Facebook, or the what's playing next on your TV....to name a few of them. We have all become desensitized by the remarkable availability of these distractions in our lives. As a result, it has become easier to be drawn away from the relationships that actually matter to us as we focus on those other things. If you have been together for a while, maybe it is the distraction of money, material wealth and competition with a family that seems to be perfect from the outside, or even coveting your neighbor's spouse. It's mostly unintentional, but over time, the detachment and avoidance of the negatives in a relationship can impact a couple and become significant obstacles that can feel insurmountable at times. As we age, just like interest, these things compound and can feel heavy to the point of breaking. We become tired and feel beaten and abused, but can’t identify the source of it. In reality, it is the overwhelming weight of complacency that rests on our shoulders that can lead to finger pointing and accusations when anything goes out of the ordinary. If you have children, like we do, you can see this manifest in the way that their attention is diverted from helping around the house or helping each other, or how quickly a task like homework can evolve into mindless scrolling when an electronic is involved. Their behavior may echo what they see and the complacency that many of us have fallen victim to. That is why when we learned that there would be a couple's retreat in February, we were happy to become involved. Not only is it a great example of how vibrant the parish is here at Immaculate Conception, but it's a fantastic opportunity to reconnect with each other in a no-judgment zone. We welcome the chance to spend some time with each other to rediscover the Holy Spirit's presence within our relationship, and how our love for each other will be magnified by the end of the day on February 21st. Whether you are married, engaged, or a couple that has been dating for 20 years, we invite you to join us for part of a day at a retreat that is guaranteed to be nothing short of profoundly moving and entertaining! Should you know a couple going through a rough patch or one that has been dating for 20 years, bring them too! You may be the catalyst that they need to revitalize their love or finally make the commitment. Childcare will be available during the event in order for you to make your date-day at Immaculate Conception. Your date-night is up to you, but we know that it will be extra special with the one you love. God bless, David & Stephanie Ringland

From Father Steven - February 1, 2026

By Father Steven Clemence • January 30, 2026
Dear Brothers and Sisters, This past week, the parish took a bus loaded with youth to attend the March for Life in Washington. It was really a blessing to all of us. We attended an event held on Friday morning by the Sisters of Life. During Mass, New York's auxiliary Bishop, Joseph Espaillat, delivered a passionate and energetic homily centered on the consistent dignity of human life and a full Catholic pro-life ethic, delivered a powerful homily. Drawing from the Church’s teachings and the Second Vatican Council’s pastoral constitution Gaudium et Spes , he invited all in attendance to embrace every aspect of a life-affirming vision, not just select issues. I would like to share some points with you. In his homily, Bishop Joseph Espaillat energizes the congregation by acknowledging their sacrifice in waking early, traveling long distances, and enduring fatigue to be present. Drawing on his own experience of attending the March for Life as a teenager and seminarian, he reassures especially young people that the effort is worth it, emphasizing a repeated refrain: “In the end, love wins.” This phrase becomes the central theme of his message, underscoring that love—not anger, exhaustion, or despair—is the Christian response to the struggles surrounding life issues. Bishop Espaillat situates the pro-life movement within the broader faith and tradition of the Church. He stresses that Catholics do not rely solely on Scripture, but also on Sacred Tradition and the Magisterium. He highlights the importance of Vatican II documents, lamenting that many Catholics—laypeople and clergy alike—are unfamiliar with them despite their relevance. The Church, he explains, has a “constitution” similar to that of a nation: Gaudium et Spes , the Pastoral Constitution on the Church in the Modern World. Focusing especially on Paragraph 27 of Gaudium et Spes , Bishop Espaillat walks the congregation through a list of violations against human dignity. He emphasizes that being pro-life is not a single-issue stance. While abortion is affirmed as a grave moral evil and a central concern, it cannot be isolated from other life issues. The document condemns murder, abortion, euthanasia, suicide, torture, coercion, subhuman living conditions, arbitrary imprisonment, deportation, slavery, human trafficking, and exploitative labor. According to the bishop, Catholics cannot “pick and choose” which lives deserve protection. To do so undermines the Gospel and weakens the Church’s moral witness. He reinforces this point by quoting Fulton Sheen and his own seminary professors: refusing to take a stand on major moral issues is itself a decision and amounts to silent cooperation with evil. By choosing to travel to Washington, D.C., the faithful have already made a decision—to stand publicly for life and truth. Bishop Espaillat explains that disrespect for life poisons society, leading to violence, war, and hatred. When life is not honored—beginning in the womb—all of society suffers. At the same time, he offers hope: the Christian response is to listen, teach, and send. The Church must listen to one another across generations and roles, teach clearly without relativism, and then send disciples into the world as witnesses. Returning to the Gospel, he reflects on King David’s choice of mercy over violence and calls for a consistent life ethic grounded in compassion, truth, and love. Quoting Popes John Paul II, Benedict XVI, and Francis, he rejects the “throwaway culture” and urges defense of the unborn, the poor, the sick, the elderly, and the marginalized. He concludes by encouraging the faithful, especially young people, to respond to opposition with love, to be light rather than hostility, and to remember their mission: they are summoned, appointed, and sent. His final message echoes his opening refrain— love is the answer, and in the end, love wins . God Bless, Fr. Steven