From Father Steven - August 25, 2024

Father Steven Clemence • August 23, 2024

Dear Brothers and Sisters, 

 

We still live in a society filled with stigmas. While awareness and acceptance of many issues have grown tremendously, there are still topics people find difficult to discuss. One such issue is coping with suffering. Unfortunately, addiction remains a common but unhealthy way to deal with pain. Whether the addiction is public or private, it doesn't solve the underlying problems. Some addictions, like alcohol abuse, can be very harmful to ourselves and those around us, while others, like drug addiction, pose a significant danger. This week, we will observe International Overdose Awareness Day.

 

The challenge of dealing with suffering has been a topic of discussion since ancient times, with many philosophers offering their insights. Even though there may be clear answers, it remains difficult to navigate through suffering. In my ten years as a priest, dedicated to a life of prayer and study, I can attest that it is still very challenging to endure tribulations, whether personal or not. Now, imagine how much more difficult it must be for someone who doesn't have a balanced life, a supportive family, or struggles with their faith. The common response to pain is often to flee from it or to distract ourselves and pretend it isn't happening. Unfortunately, this only worsens the problem, making life seem unbearable. Faced with what feels like a dead end, some may turn to temporary relief, seeking comfort in pleasure or, more dangerously, in substances like alcohol or drugs. This leads to substance abuse and further deterioration, creating a vicious cycle that feels impossible to escape.

 

Jesus Christ gave us a core mandate in Christianity: to love God and our neighbor (Mt 22:37-40). He further explained that we should love one another as He has loved us. Reflecting on how Christ loved us, especially when we were troubled or went astray, we see His example as the Good Shepherd in Luke 15 and John 10. He lays down His life for His sheep, goes out to find the lost one, and rejoices when it is found. He doesn't shun the lost sheep or give it a lecture. Similarly, we are called to approach those who are lost with tenderness and love. In the parable of the Good Samaritan, Jesus shows us how to love our neighbor by displaying compassion to a stranger, someone who might even be considered despicable.

 

There are countless people in need of our help—those who are poor, homeless, struggling with addiction, lonely, or depressed. While we may not be able to help the entire world, we can make a difference one person at a time. Desmond Doss, whose story was portrayed in the movie "Hacksaw Ridge," believed in this principle. He enlisted in the war to help others, and by saving one person at a time, he rescued 75 soldiers from the battlefield and provided comfort to many more. This week, we have a great opportunity to help those struggling with opioid addiction and to support those mourning the loss of loved ones to overdose. The annual Candlelight Vigil for International Overdose Awareness Day will be Tuesday, August 27th at 6:45pm and will take place at the Frank D. Walker Building, 255 Main Street, Marlborough (if it’s raining, it will be held in the Upper Church). The evening will feature a Memorial Slideshow, Guest Speakers, Free Narcan, and a Candle Lighting Ceremony. Please join us in welcoming everyone who attends, praying with and for them, and taking the first step in helping those in need.

 

 

God Bless,

Fr. Steven

 

From Father Steven - March 22, 2026

By Father Steven Clemence • March 20, 2026
Dear Brothers and Sisters, As you may be aware, we are starting our next Bereavement Ministry on March 31st. This is the third session we are offering to those who have suffered the loss of a loved one. The loss can be a recent one or one from years ago. We will be following the Catholic program called Seasons of Hope. I encourage you to participate to find support and comfort within our faith-filled community. God Bless, Fr. Steven ——————————————————————— Bereavement Ministry: Seasons of Hope to Begin As we mourn together, our parish bereavement team of Nancy Papp, Mark Vital, and Nancy Wells would like to personally invite anyone who is grieving the loss of a loved one to attend Immaculate Conception’s next bereavement session which will begin on Tuesday evening, March 31st at 6:30 pm in the Lower Church and continue for six consecutive Tuesday evenings ending on Tuesday, May 5th. There are no stages to grief. We all experience grief in our own unique way, and healing is an intentional process, where we gather as a community of faith to become disciples of hope. It is through prayerful reflection, practical learning, and personal fellowship that we mourn. We will be following the Catholic program called Seasons of Hope . It is a 6-week program based on Scripture that focuses our faith on the spiritual side of grieving. Our mission is to support and accompany those going through the grieving process through Scripture, prayer, reflection, and simple activities. The program centers on Jesus Christ and is founded in the wisdom, traditions, and practices of the Church. It provides an opportunity for those who are grieving to be together, share their experiences, listen to God, and to each other, and be heard and comforted. St. John of the Cross, a Carmelite and Doctor of the Church, said: “In sorrow and suffering, go straight to God with confidence, and you will be strengthened, enlightened and instructed.” Fr. Mike Schmitz (many of you know him from his Bible in a Year podcast) was asked in an interview once about suffering. He responded: “God doesn’t always take the pain away. God doesn’t take the grief away. God doesn’t undo your loved one’s death. But with hope, our faith in God can console us.” Once again, we warmly invite those mourning to “come and be comforted.” Please call Lee Ann at the parish office to register. This program has helped hundreds of people mourn the loss of a loved one. We are delighted to bring this ministry to you again and hope and pray you will consider attending. Thank you and please keep us and those we serve in your prayers. The Bereavement Team: Nancy Papp, Nancy Wells, Mark Vital

From Father Steven - March 15, 2026

By Father Steven Clemence • March 13, 2026
Dear Brothers and Sisters, Last week we heard the terrible news from the Diocese of Providence regarding the abuse of minors by clergy. Any form of abuse of minors is always despicable. In this particular case, not only is there the problem of the priests themselves, which would be unacceptable, but it seems that there were also problems in the hierarchy/administration as well. Once I heard an expression that portrays well this issue: one is way too many. Every victim counts. It is very unfortunate that so many cases of abuse happened in the past, and even worse when they happened in the Church, where it should be a safe place for every person. For many years, anything related to abuse was always a big taboo that no one ever spoke about, much less reported. In 2002, the Boston Globe reported the systematic abuse that happened in the Archdiocese of Boston for decades. The Church has failed its people. Even if there were only one single case, one is too many. With the arrival of Cardinal Sean O’Malley, many rules and procedures were adopted to guarantee the safeguarding of children and vulnerable adults. The United States Conference of Catholic Bishops also changed their protocols to never allow any sort of omission of abuse. Mandatory training for all volunteers who have contact with children and yearly background checks for all volunteers are some examples of what was adopted. There was also some support offered to victims. However, there are more out there who have never reached out. The problem is far from its resolution. Although many changes have taken place in the Church, we must remain vigilant. Abuse remains a terrible reality in many parts of society—from schools to sports and other institutions—and the Church must always strive to be a place where children and vulnerable people are protected and safe. Nowadays, there is also a call to protect vulnerable people, such as the elderly and anyone with special needs. Although there is a policy that requires certain people to report any form of abuse to the authorities (mandated reporters), it is the duty of every person to protect their neighbor. I would like to plan a day or evening to offer training from the Archdiocese to everyone who would like to participate. There we can also explain all the efforts that are being made in the Church to promote a safe environment for anyone who comes to the parishes in the Archdiocese of Boston. On a related topic, for anyone who has suffered any sort of abuse, we also want to offer help. There can be a stigma that pushes victims away because of shame. A person can even feel guilty for having allowed such a thing. God is there to help us take things off our chest and from our souls. This can be expanded to other kinds of traumas that we keep only to ourselves. How many times have we heard in the past that people bring such things to their tombs? God is here to help us carry our burdens. We priests are also available to listen and offer whatever resources may assist anyone who is suffering. There is help that can be offered, whether through professional counselors, victim assistance, or independent resources. On the spiritual side, we do know that God heals our wounds, accompanies us in our journeys, and helps us carry our crosses. In moments like this, when human failures are so evident, we are reminded that our hope ultimately rests in Christ. Only He can help us live by His grace. Only He can console us when we are tired and burdened. Only He can bring us to green pastures to refresh our soul. Only He is the way, the truth, and the life. Let us then follow Him up to the Cross, because if we die with Him, we shall also live with Him. And if people need our help, let us not neglect their needs. Let us be there for them, to listen, or even hold their hands in their journey. No one should be left behind…no one.  God Bless, Fr. Steven